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Probably the first reaction you face when you face the child's irrational fears is that you want to clarify that there is no reason to fear. But this is rarely successful, according to Ingo Shpitsuk von Brzezinski, a German association representing psychologists for children, adolescents and physical therapists.

"Of course, this is the shortest and quickest way to deal with the issue as an adult, but children can feel then that what they feel is not taken seriously, fear of monsters is irrational and irrational fears can not always be overcome by rational discussions," he said. Thus it is best to engage in the magical inner world of the child and try to make him participate in the monster fight. This means thinking with the child about how best to defeat the monster, and to move him or turn him into a good monster.

Fabienne Becker-Stol, director of the Bavarian Institute for Early Childhood Research, says the most reliable way to make a child overcome his fears is to physically approach the child and give him affection. It is very difficult for children to be ridiculed because of their fears. It is best to put the child on your stone, and once calm, ask him if he can tell you more about this monster, "how does it look and what frightens you?".

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Children's fears are normal

Anna Christianen, who heads the clinical psychology team for children and adolescents at Marburg University, points out that fear of monsters is very normal for children of a certain age of development. Children are initially afraid of strangers, unknown objects, loud sounds and heights. By the age of four they are afraid of animals and darkness and then of being alone.

In pre-school age, children are afraid of imaginary beings such as monsters and ghosts, as well as thunderstorms, separation and being alone at night. As soon as school starts, dominant fears change into school-related things, failures, tests, injuries, illness, death, medical intervention, disasters, kidnappings, environmental accidents and wars.

Sometimes parents' behavior, fears and phobia themselves also cause children to have anxiety disorders, Kristiansen says. "In the school playground, there are often parents who stand waving their children, which makes the child feel that they have no confidence in him, and that something is going to happen soon," she explains. All experts agree that the concerns are justified in principle. Smart children are especially more sensitive because they can recognize potential risks early. But if fears increase, stress the child and restrict his daily life, parents should seek the help of a specialist.


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